Monday, October 10, 2016

The Waiting Game

When we first looked into adoption, we knew that there would be a lot of waiting. Waiting on approval, waiting on documents, waiting on medical exams, and waiting on our referral. We never expected to be waiting on the Department of State's proposed legislation. The feeling of devastation still lingers. There are days when I will cry quietly at my desk and seek the comfort of someone hundreds of miles away and my husband's warm hugs. There are days when I am angry, angry to know that there are people working against international adoption. There's nothing we can do outside of advocating against the changes. Comments on the docket close on November 7th. We know that there will be second and third readings as well as approval through the house and senate. We, very well may be, in the process of collecting documents for our dossier by the time this makes it to capital hill.

There are a lot of unknowns right now. Our agency has told us that we may change countries if the Samoa program closes. We're hoping this is not the case, but we are preparing ourselves, just in case.

As we wait, I am working on our next fundraiser, which will be very exciting. I will be giving more information as I have it. Stay tuned!


Wednesday, October 5, 2016

Sponsor - Dr. Dan Driscoll

Dr. Driscoll has been working with my husband's family for a number of years. He's an amazing dentist with years of service at Enlighten Dental Care. We appreciate all his hard work and dedication to our family's dental needs, especially those weekend emergency calls that he helps with.
http://enlightendentalcare.com/

He generously donated to our adoption after hearing about the process from my mother in law. We are eternally grateful for this gift and want to recognize him for such. Thank you again Dr. Driscoll, we really appreciate all you've done for us.

Lots of love,

Sunday, October 2, 2016

Politics & Adoption

Everyone knows that adoption is not an easy process. International adoption is even more difficult and has more room for problems than domestic adoption. There are always hang ups with dates, paperwork, lawyers, court dates, and so on. These are problems we excepted to face. The curve ball we were thrown on Friday afternoon was so much worse than any of these and we never saw it coming.

The Department of State (DOS) is submitting a number of  proposed changes to the government. One part of the requested change is banning agencies from charging fees for child care. Our agency partners with a victims group in Samoa, where the children are taken after the referral. This group provides adequate care for the children while the governments process the necessary paperwork. Matched parents pay for this care and it's not something we'd question. However, this change alone will close the Samoa program. We're unsure of how this would affect other programs.

We also know that there are proposed changes to the education requirements. This would mean that we, as well as any other adoptive family, would have to take our state's foster care training program. We've read that several states have very long wait times for these classes and it could delay the adoption process by a year or more. What's worse about this change is that there won't be any supplemental help to the states to cover the costs of international adoption families' training. This is an already over-burdened and broken system.

There will also be increased costs across the board. Agencies will be required to adhere to stricter guidelines and provisions, which costs them more money as well. Many of these agencies operate as non-profit organizations and this change would cause many of them to shut down completely.

I type this out with tears in my eyes because I know that if the government implements these changes, we will never be able to adopt from Samoa. We don't have a crystal ball and we won't know what's going to happen until it does. We don't know what this means for our adoption process. We know that our agency, among others, have begun taking actions in fighting these changes.

What can you do? Educate yourself. Saveadoptions.org has put together an easy to understand website information highlighting the proposed changes. Sign the petition and share it EVERYWHERE. Read the docket DOS-2016-0056. Post a comment on the docket. The changes are open for comment until November 7th. Contact your local representative. This is not an issue that an e-mail will draw attention to. Pick up the phone and physically speak to someone. Visit this website to find your senators and this website to contact your representative. Ask them to push the DOS to withdraw the proposition.

International adoption policy is not something that is commonly spoken about. It is not a hot button issue that will come up during the next presidential debate. It is not a topic that will be splashed on the front headlines of the New York Times. It is a change that will be quietly signed and passed without the general public even knowing. It will affect hundreds of families who have started and are undergoing the process of being matched with their child.

I don't care who you vote for - red, blue, oompa loompa, or Kermit the frog. This isn't a time to sit and think about what could be done or hope that someone else does it for you. This is something that requires action. For us and so many other families out there, please take the time to petition and contact those who speak for your state. There are children in other countries who have it so much worse than anyone could ever imagine. Those children deserve homes too.


Pancake Success!

Yesterday morning was the pancake breakfast. I lost count of the people who stopped by to have breakfast with us, but it was an amazing amount. This was our second best fundraiser. We're looking at doing this again, possibly in the spring, and we have some new ideas for how to get the information out to the public.Here are some pictures from this morning:

That's a lot of bacon!

The mother in law with one of the church volunteers that helped us

Coffee & Juice Station

Lots of people came out to support us!
We'd like to thank Tabernacle Baptist church for allowing us to use their space, Lauren for manning the cash box all morning, Steve's mom, her friend Cindy, and Nana for cooking and helping in the kitchen, Stacy who brought out all her Thirty One bags to help us raise money, and to everyone who showed up to eat and donated.We couldn't have done it without all the help we received! We're looking forward to the next one.

Lots of love,